Want to know the KEY to adopting healthy habits and making them stick?
It’s not willpower.
It’s not accountability.
It’s not mentally beating yourself up and making yourself feel guilty.
It’s learning to control your thoughts.
Here’s the deal.
Every single result we have in our life started with a thought
Think about it. It’s true!
I’ll give you an example.
Let’s say you have an unhealthy diet.
That’s your result.
For every result, there is an action that leads to it.
This one is pretty simple. If your result is an unhealthy diet, it’s because you eat unhealthy food.
Why do you eat unhealthy food?
You eat unhealthy because of a feeling that causes you to do it.
That feeling could be desire, or entitlement, or stress, or overwhelm, or just a feeling of apathy about what you put in your mouth.
So if the feeling causes you to eat unhealthy food that results in you having an unhealthy diet… then what causes the feeling???
You might have guessed by now…
You may think.
“It’s just so good, I can’t go without it.”
“I deserve this.”
“I’m too busy to cook healthy food.
“I’ve had a really bad day and food will make me feel better.”
“Eating healthy food is boring.”
Or any other of a thousand thoughts we have that cause us to eat the stuff we shouldn’t.
Most of these time, these thoughts seem out of our control… remember the primitive brain we talked about last week?
The good news is that we can learn to recognize the thought patterns and replace non-helpful thoughts with helpful ones.
I’ll give you an example.
If you have a health goal to meet and you know that in order to do it, you need to give up sugar…
You may think “I love sugar and I don’t want to give up my favorite foods.”
This type of thought usually leads to feelings of deprivation, anger, rebelliousness, resistance, or depression.
These types of feelings usually lead to eating the sugar anyway, either out of spite and rebellion, or out of sadness, anger, and depression.
Sometimes you can use willpower to take power over the thought and be temporarily successful at giving up sugar.
But it won’t last.
Because you didn’t change your thought.
Eventually, the feeling caused by the thought will make you eat the sugar.
So how do we change that?
First, we identify a more productive, BUT BELIEVABLE thought.
“I really love sugar and I don’t want to give up my favorite foods, but I want to be healthy.”
“I’m CHOOSING to give up sugar so I can have the health and life I want.”
“I want to become a person that doesn’t eat sugar.”
“As much as I love sugar, I know I’m capable of giving it up.”
You choose the thought that works for you.
The important thing is that you choose a thought that makes it clear that YOU are choosing to give up sugar, not a thought that makes you feel like you are being forced to give it up.
Then think about how that thought will make you feel.
Whatever feeling that thought gives you should lead to actions that don’t include eating sugar.
Then that action leads to the result of you being healthier.
The problem is that changing your thought won’t happen overnight. You have to learn how to replace your old automatic thought with this new thought.
Want to know how to do that?
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